10 ways to empower your communication in pregnancy
The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab.
Yeah, it seems strange in this day and age, but who are we to question tradition?
There are going to be times in your pregnancy and motherhood journey when you wish you could step up and say something to someone.
Shut down one of their comments or stand your ground on a matter – maybe a baby name you love… or a parenting style you feel is right for you.
Which is why I’ve written this article for you to empower your communication.
You have everything inside you to feel powerful to communicate with anyone you need to.
These tips will get you well on your way to feeling confident!
1. What you know
Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned.
Yes – that’s why at school they make you do practical elements to show you not only understand the theory but you can do it.
I find myself the best way to become good at something is to push my boundaries and keep pushing until I feel comfortable and confident.
It’s true, sometimes you need to fake it to make it. This could be really hard for our introverts and come more naturally for extroverts.
If you are an introvert – don’t let that be your biggest excuse!
2. Listen to yourself
It’s just as important as asking questions.
Sometimes listening to the sound of our own voice can teach us to be a little bit confident with ourselves and to say the things we believe in with conviction.
Try speaking some things out loud that would normally scare you. I like to practice boundary setting out loud.
Saying NO out loud a few times without explanation.
3. Practice Humility
We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners.
In a group, don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if they’re unsure about it then make a joke out of it.
I promise you it’ll make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.
You could practice asking questions in a pregnancy education class, or with your mothers’ group.
One thing my dad taught me as a wee girl that I am very thankful for is there is no stupid answer.
And the person who is there to teach or run something is there to make sure you GET IT!
Don’t be afraid to speak up and show some vulnerability.
If you are thinking it I can bet so are others! (I know because I ALWAYS ask questions in a room full of people too afraid to speak up!)
4. Eye Contact
There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s important that you keep your focus when talking to someone or at a gathering. It helps for you to also gauge if the person is interested, and you can read body language as well.
5. Joking around
A little bit of humour can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when speaking. I often use humour to lighten the mood in serious conversations when I can sense someone is uncomfortable. I also use humour as a way to move onto a new subject when I am uncomfortable or boundary setting.
6. Be like the rest of them
Interaction is all about mingling with other people.
You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as learning key words and slang!
I always try and drop in some comfort or slang words around people that I know makes people feel more comfortable or safe.
I’m also a bit of a FOMO (fear of missing out) and I love to be like “everyone else!”
7. Me, Myself, and I
Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I do!
Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch.
You can even talk out loud to your baby or your belly bump and practice, practice, practice!
8. With a smile
Practice saying it with a smile.
Smiling release endorphins into your body and it makes other people feel happy when they see a big, happy smile!
9. A Role Model
There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or on TV.
Sure they may be just reading their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasise what they say can help you!
Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and often in a hurried panic.
Write down in a notebook or journal some of the conversations you find hardest to communicate with those around you.
Maybe it’s saying no to your mother in law who insist on holding your baby when it’s time for a breastfeed, or maybe your mother wants to be present in your birthing space and you really don’t feel comfortable for that!
There are always going to be times where you don’t feel confident to say what it is you want to get across.
Practice and preparation will always be helpful in those times when you are taken by surprise.
And that about wraps it up.
Share a time when you have had to try hard to articulate your message in the comments below!
Want some support during your pregnancy or motherhood journey?